“She can’t read my mind…how does she know?”
“He’s projecting his feelings on me!”
You’ve likely heard, or maybe said, phrases like these before. In a disagreement with loved ones or co-workers, it’s easy to feel frustrated that another party hasn’t adequately anticipated our needs (mind reading) or to wrongly assume that you understand what another person thinks, feels or expects (projection.)
As you might expect, mind reading and projection set the stage for relationships to be riddled with miscommunication, misunderstands, hurt feelings and resentment—all while preventing us from having loving, compassionate and constructive conversations with those around us.
The next time you find yourself trying to guess another person’s emotions or feel like someone may be misunderstanding you, here are some tactics to reach a clear and respectful resolution:
Get to know yourself
We can’t set useful boundaries if we don’t understand our own physical or emotional expectations, wants and needs. Having a genuine understanding of ourselves is the cornerstone of setting boundaries and improving our ability to communicate.Tune in to your emotions
Part of getting to know yourself and setting these boundaries is understanding your emotions. Understanding our emotions and gaining a context for them is crucial for reducing mind reading and projection.When we acknowledge and understand our emotions, we are able to better express them and distinguish what feelings and thoughts belong to us versus what feelings and thoughts belong to someone else.
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ReplyDeleteThis is a very interesting tactic and a topic in general. I sometimes study all the subtleties of the relationship between mу and girls. This way I learned to hear myself, and my desires. And as express my emotions correctly and at the right time. Now I'm looking for my soul mate still, it's not so easy to find a pair not only for the color of hair, but also for internal communication. Now I often visit video chat and have several girls at the same time in sonversations, who have a lot of charm and energy, which feeds me all the time.
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